We all hope our children won’t have to experience bullying, but sadly it is still quite common. It can be tough to know the right words or actions, but we hope our parent’s guide to bullying will help.
- Bullying can happen at school, on the playground or around the neighbourhood, and even online through social media and texting.
- Different types of bullying include physical (kicking, pushing, hitting), verbal (taunting, teasing, and threatening) and social (exclusive behaviour and spreading rumours).
- Both boys and girls can be bullies, often targeting children who are different from them in some way.
Weight-based bullying can be particularly challenging for children, as it can often make them feel self-conscious and isolated. Because of this, children who are teased about their body weight tend to avoid situations that can make them feel vulnerable.
These might include PE lessons, taking part in games or physical activities in break time or after school.
Long-term effects of bullying can include poor school performance, depression, and other mental health challenges.
No one deserves to be teased and made to feel ashamed, no matter the reasoning behind the bullying.
How to help your child when they are facing bullying:
Tell an adult
Encourage your child to tell a trusted adult at school about what is going on. This might be their favourite teacher, a coach, head teacher or school nurse. They may be able to help when you’re not around.
Don’t react
Tell your child to try not to react to the teasing and taunting. Bullies enjoy getting a rise and reaction out of their victims, like crying. If your child can stay calm and walk away from the bully, they are more likely to stop – as they aren’t getting a reaction.
Monitor devices
Cyber-bullying can be just as hurtful as physical bullying. Be sure to keep an eye on your child’s social media accounts. You can even switch them to a private setting, so only selected friends and family can follow them.
Celebrate their strengths
Commend your child’s strengths and qualities that have nothing to do with body weight. Compliment them when they are clever, kind or brave. This will boost your child’s confidence and help maintain their self-esteem.
Encourage them
Taking part in activities they enjoy outside of school can help your child to create new relationships and friends away from the place they are bullied. Learning a new skill can also make them feel accomplished. Maybe they’d like to try karate, gymnastics, or drama club?
Check in at home
Sadly, sometimes bullying can even happen at home, too. Siblings, cousins and even parents might make negative comments about a child’s weight or appearance. If this is happening, be sure to address it with the family and set boundaries about treating each other with respect and kindness. It’s important to talk to your child about bullying and reassure them that they can trust you with their problems. Together, you can find a solution.
Promote a healthy body image in your child
Check out our guide to children’s mental health for tips on how to encourage your child to feel comfortable in their own skin.
This parent’s guide to bullying is part of an occasional series. Check our Get inspired section for lots more helpful resources.
